Dogboy
USA
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Posted - May 30 2019 : 11:14:04 PM Show Profile Email Poster Edit Reply Reply with Quote View user's IP address Get a Link to this Reply Delete Reply
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After all, the Divine Union that you seek is ultimately inside of yourself, and in each of us, including and especially your wife. But if you focus more on the sitting practices solo you may eventually find that you really don't need any kind of external sex anyway. It's very nice but not a requirement in yoga.
This. I, too, am middle-aged, not married to a yogini nor is she inclined towards tantra practices. If we have relations more than three times a month, well then, it's been a very active month. Ecstatic bliss is available to me (thank you AYP!) with attention/intention, along with outwardly expressed love (thank you samyama!), so in actual relations with my wife, it becomes the divine dance just by happening, by what it am bringing to the party. Frankly, our marriage is as strong as it has ever been.
The automatic transmutation of my sexual essence on a daily basis has heightened arousal in the every day. It is on my meditation cushion, in the shower, in the mirror, walking down the street, driving the car, falling to sleep at night...it is the rise within of both male and female (I now have sensitive nipples?!!) and a sense I am opening like a spring flower in the autumn of my years. The rise of inner silence is palpable in meditation, allowing for all this inner and outer sexual expansion.
OP's original questions about seeking tantra outside of marriage and the ethics of doing so perhaps can be solved by finding the goddess within your wife and life, it is all a trick of the mind, encouraged and supported by your dedicated AYP practice. Arousal is available for the asking, and many times does not involve the genitals at all. Love spills forth without much effort at all.