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Over the past few years I have really grown into myself. I finally know myself and am completly comfortable with my being. I embrace life. Recently, I moved back into a city where I lived befor. Since moving back alot of my old friends desire my time. But when I see them, it's like going back in time, going back to a place where I am not anymore. I am 26 and I don't drink and don't want to clubs, parties, and I don't want to spend my time talking about other people. It seems like that is all people my age do. When I spend time alone, then everyone thinks I am depressed but I am actually more content. Has anyone else experienced this? A change of life equals a change of friends?
Hi Skyler and welcome to the forum,[
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Often we can experience periods in our lives where we feel disconnected from those around us including long-time friends. Relationships naturally oscillate between periods of closeness and periods of distance (and everything in between) depending on where we are in our lives.
I have experienced times in my life as you describe, finding myself having little in common with those around me. What I noticed interestingly was that some of the time, those relationships took a break for a while and other times I made the choice to meet my friends on different terms, like one-on-one or in environments that were closer to the "space" I was in at the time.
In situations where there was more distance between myself and some long-time friends, it was interesting to see how one day when I wasn't looking, that they seemed to jump forward in their personal growth and to end up in a space where we could relate to one another more closely again. Other times with different friends, those relationships simply changed and/ or remained more distant (or ended) only to have new people come into my life who were more like-minded.
I would also suggest that as you go along your path, you will find it easier to relate to almost everyone around you and find yourself having fun with people and situations you never expected to enjoy in the past.
Best of luck to you,
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