Working with some deep stuff has brought to light many different things, with growing insights into the process and mechanism of letting go, and letting the Ishta "take" it. It is an ongoing work in progress and for all practical purposes, it feels like the work has just begun.. Chronicling as it comes up..
In the process of letting go or surrendering, the first step is to
become aware that there is holding. And this takes courage. Painful issues become repressed for a very good reason - because they are indeed painful. In a situation like this (and from my own personal experience), the arising of non-dual awareness or opening can happen briefly. If, when it passes, the thought that "awakening has happened and there is nothing/nobody here anymore" is falsely believed, the repressed issues will continue to recur, whether one acknowledges it or not. Thus, courage and letting go of any high ideas/thoughts about my "attainment" were necessary for me.
As the inquiry deepens, the core issue is seen. In many instances, it's not that the core issue was not seen before, but all the
associated issues were not surrendered along with it. Thus, we may try to give up, say the feeling of being wronged, but what blocks the giving up is that we
like being the victim. Why? Because there is someone
else to shift blame on. The
attachment to that nonserving issue is enough to keep it in place. Thus, the inquiry needs to look at
why we like being the victim. Inquire deeper and we uncover the fact that inadequacy within is the issue,
not anything to do with anyone else. Thus, there is no longer someone else to blame. The issue has always been me. It hardly matters what circumstances led to such a fallacy in belief. Ultimately, it is about
owning the issue. Without taking
complete responsibility, nothing can be let go of.
Thus, "giving" my sense of inadequacy to my Ishta is pointless unless I am also willing to give up my
liking of feeling inadequate. But I can't even see that I like it unless I'm willing to give up any
resistance to seeing, with false beliefs such as "there is nothing and nobody to suffer" when clearly that is not being lived.
So, what is the mechanism of letting go? Aside from humble asking to be shown and willingness to see all the "un-holy" parts of ourselves, it is deceptively simple. It is to remain with the
felt sense of the issue. Not labeling it
and ignoring all thoughts about it. And surrendering
to that felt sense of pain, guilt, shame, anger, whatever. Not trying to shift it or give it to someone else, but allowing it to blossom fully. As this happens, over a few minutes, the sensation shifts and changes. Staying with it for longer takes away the energy of it and it dissolves. Depending on how deep-rooted it is and how attached we are to it, it goes away permanently or comes up again to be subjected to the same process (with decreased intensity).
It is when we are completely willing to let go of limitations
along with all the associated perks, that the giving on our part or taking on the Ishta's part is complete. Can't ask the Ishta to take the limitation but leave the perks behind