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Originally posted by CarsonZi
then I really should be able to let go of my desire for a dry toothbrush in the morning right?
Wrong![:I]
Why?
Because you like a dry toothbrush in the morning and you don't have one. Being enlightened does not mean liking everything that comes your way. It means not suffering when you don't have a dry toothbrush. There is no energy in the not liking "what is". No suffering. But you
don't have to accept everything, you can still have your likes and dislikes, but you are clear about your dislikes and you can communicate it without ego, without energy, and amazingly, when you have no energy in your words, the other person can easily accept it. If you are suffering and have energy behind the dislike, then when you speak, even if you don't realize it, you will trigger a reaction from the other. How do you get to this place? Continue with your meditation, and when something bothers you, take it to inquiry, and be clear about what part of it is ego and what is a genuine request, and then ask.
In your other thread about the dreams
http://www.aypsite.com/plus-forum/index.php?topic=722#53133, you talked about having restless nights. Here you talk about how small things are still worrying you.
I was not going to post this yet, because I still don't have the exact words to write this with, but I will trust flow and try my best.
Yesterday morning I was listening to Nithyananda
Practising Living Enlightenment (about 33 min into this), and he said, in order to be enlightened, you need to have shakti (doing/action) to change what you can change and buddhi (knowing) to know and accept what you can't change. When you have this, there is no conflict. Living enlightenment is finally living a (internal) conflict free life.
So how do you know, what can be changed and what needs to be accepted. If in your sleep state, you are restless, many dreams, you feel stressed out, then there is something happening in your waking state that needs your shakti, your action to change. Like telling your wife kindly, please don't use my brush, I prefer having a dry toothbrush brush in the morning, or keeping an extra toothbrush brush somewhere, so if your brush is wet, use the spare one. Take the drive on your own.. or letting the dogs play for a bit (and if possible), drop them back home and then go for a drive on your own.
If you feel restless and stressed out in your waking state, then you need to apply buddhi (knowing) to your life.. look into your life and see there is something you are not accepting, something that "is" but you are not ready to accept "what is".
All of this rings very true with me, so thought I'd share it with you, maybe it will help.