Thanks for the really great responses. Weaver the concept of attachment really struck home. Thank you.
The odd thing with all this is that I can recall always feeling like this and with the awareness of it to some degree but more so in the last ten years or so. None of this is really new to me but I work in an environment which can be very stressful and negative and it seems that people's true colors show through more easily.
Previously I was more involved in an environment where I was around folks who seemed more "awake" for lack of a better term.
I feel that there is a big difference between judgement vs discernment. I think I must be still stuck in the point where I discern something yet I am attached to what I think "should be" and hence it's really a judgement? Sort of like the adolescent "cool" vs "not cool"[:p]
Yet I don't see how everyone is just doing the best they can. I suppose at some giant cosmic level they are, but I live on the earth plane. Some things are clearly "right" vs "wrong"... and yet a million shades of gray in between..
Examples: A middle-aged patient in the hospital I work in was on her 'second' liver. No kidding. A completely ruined second liver through her continual drinking and drug use. Another patient in her early twenties lay ill awaiting a liver transplant (due to a non-drug related congenital illness). She waited years for the transplant. So here is the earth-plane LittleTurtle observing both these patients. I feel compassion and love of service for both yet dislike one and love the other. (!!)
I'm sitting in class and the two students in front of me are helping each other cheat on a quiz. It's simple graded quiz, just a few questions. They could have chosen to do the work, but instead they choose to cheat. How is that "doing the best they can"? Life is about choice, no? I'm sure these two gals know the difference between basic truth/lie, steal/non-steal, and try to teach same to their children and grandchildren. They were not doing the best they knew how.
But this is common life stuff. As per my initial post, I find my problem is more superficial than this. I meet some one and instantly feel like or dislike!! After I get to know them it can be worse
because now I have something to attach it to.
Oh well. I continue to practice my sadhana AYP style