yoga and relationships/people

[Jack]

Hi,

I don't know if its my huge spiritual ego, but when I meditate regularly and get into the inner silence, I have a very hard time relating to 'ordinary people'.. I am spaced out and uninvolved, disinterested.

Its a concern with my relationship..

Anybody gone through this? Any tips?

[SeySorciere]

Sounds like you're not getting enough rest coming out of the meditation, leaves you with that "spaced out" feeling

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[Tam Phap]

Hi Jack,

I don't think it has anything to do with a "huge spiritual ego", as you put it. My experience has been that it is a process whereby you become more introspective - not necessarily withdrawn, but more comfortable in "the silence", as it were, and not so apt to fall into "normal" conversations... however, with that said, one thing that I have noticed in my practice is that socially I am far more at ease than I used to be a number of years ago, as I find that I am now far more spontaneous in my interactions with others... the old adage of "think before you speak" has been turned upside down for me in that I find I am able to have a conversation with someone (or not) from a place where everything is "okay". However, as you mention that it is a concern with your relationship... well, I am finding the same thing. It is a concern, but only from the point of view of what I can only term my "old life" and my old way of communicating with my spouse, which was often tainted for some reason with fear, or one of the other not-so-healthy emotions. Now, for the most part, I communicate from a totally different space... in fact, I think that is a very good word to use, as I find that communicating from that calm "space" (whether you're "spaced out" or not...) really seems to be the ground of where I find myself right now.

[markern]

quote:Originally posted by Jack

Hi,

I don't know if its my huge spiritual ego, but when I meditate regularly and get into the inner silence, I have a very hard time relating to 'ordinary people'.. I am spaced out and uninvolved, disinterested.

Its a concern with my relationship..

Anybody gone through this? Any tips?

I have struggled a lot with the same. It just means that you are ungrounded. Really its JUST that and not something that represents a "higher" or more "worthy" state. You have too much energy high up in your body and that makes you distant from the world, other people AND yourself. Pull your energy down and the problem goes away.
Try a version of this exercise. It does not have to be with so much intention of "making love with the earth" but can be more "technical" like in Winns version:

http://www.thetaobums.com/index.php?/topic/13922-making-love-with-the-earth/

[Steve Kelly]

Yoga is a means to ending relationships in the following way:

1. If you take renunciation, you leave your friends and family behind for a life of spirituality.
2. If you practice Yoga properly you will develop greater clarity of mind, which will also induce you to introspect on what is working in your life and what is not. What is not working you abandon. This practice is known as Vivek & Vairagya.
3. When you reach the final stages of Yoga, Kaivalya(aloneness) you no longer see or have any personal relationships, all of humanity is one for you. Your mother, as much as the stranger on the street.

Thanks in advance,
Steve

[mr_anderson]

Hi Jack,

Very common, and definitely happened/happens to me. I used to get very withdrawn and quiet, unable to speak, after intense meditation. Still can do. It can be a sign of over-doing it.

I agree with someone above's comment that generally, I'm so much easier with people and more spontaneous now. I'm unrecognizable. Where once I was shy, all social anxiety is gone.

But that's after 5 years practice with self pacing. There were times of greater introversion along the way.

best,

Josh

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Originally posted by mr_anderson

Hi Jack,

Very common, and definitely happened/happens to me. I used to get very withdrawn and quiet, unable to speak, after intense meditation. Still can do. It can be a sign of over-doing it.

I agree with someone above's comment that generally, I'm so much easier with people and more spontaneous now. I'm unrecognizable. Where once I was shy, all social anxiety is gone.

But that's after 5 years practice with self pacing. There were times of greater introversion along the way.

best,

Josh


Just wanted to say thanks to these helpful answers here. I experience similar things as Jack right now and am very comforted by those answers. Helps to know it might turn out well in the long run