Hi Neesha
"falling in love" is a great opportunity to help your spirituality, not to hinder it.
When we fall in love with someone it is a manifestation of our separation from God/Unity/Oneness or whatever one calls it. It is a manifestation of our lonliness and longing for our own self-love.
The "falling" is the attachment aspect of it and can be painful, as you know. The heart can go from feeling immense love to immense pain in short cycles.
The essential ingredient for using this as spiritual transformation is "inner silence" the "witness". To be able to observe or witness the process, even though painful, allows us to transform it and is a great opportunity for further opening of the heart.
The pain comes through attachment to the person, which can be very strong, especially if with what might be called a "soulmate" or some equivalent term.
By witnessing the process, just feeling the feeling, without attaching the feeling to the person, allows the transformation to occur.
If we keep longing for the person, if we allow the feeling to constantly bring our mind back to the person over and over, then we will just continue the cycle of pain and attachment.
Living in the moment is the only way that I know to get out of this trap. To live in the moment, observing the surroundings, observing the pain, observing and feeling the food we eat, all in the present moment, is transformation.
If we look at this with great joy, as a tremendous opportunity for opening, then we can know it will pass and will change us for the better.
Some threads that have discussed this kind of thing:
http://www.aypsite.com/plus-forum/index.php?topic=3305Ache of Loniness
http://www.aypsite.com/plus-forum/index.php?topic=3122&SearchTerms=lonlinessand within the above thread:
http://www.aypsite.com/plus-forum/index.php?topic=3122#26927Other have more to say on this also I'm sure[
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