Relapse, Tough Love, Co-Dependency

[Yonatan]

Hey Dear Bodhi

I am sure you'll figure it out and it will resolve in a peaceful way. You have a good heart and a wise mind. I also very much agree with what other people here have said about putting the boundaries where they are needed. For many years it was hard for me and I learned a lot about it and still learning.

Wishing you the best and much peace and  soothing energy to the situation.

[Bodhi Tree]

quote:Originally posted by Radharani

So I've had to learn that it's ok to be quote-unquote "mean" at times, to always act with compassion but do what needs to be done.  I'm right there with ya, bro.  Let's pray our respective "problem tenants" move along peaceably to their new homes in the near future!

You certainly have my prayers going in your direction, and thank you for doing the same regarding my similar predicament. Here's a really good Yogani lesson on tough love, which has been helpful:
http://www.aypsite.com/plus/272.html
Lesson 272 - Addiction, Abusive Conduct, Tough Love and Yoga

[Bodhi Tree]

quote:Originally posted by Yonatan

Hey Dear Bodhi

I am sure you'll figure it out and it will resolve in a peaceful way. You have a good heart and a wise mind. I also very much agree with what other people here have said about putting the boundaries where they are needed. For many years it was hard for me and I learned a lot about it and still learning.

Wishing you the best and much peace and  soothing energy to the situation.

Thank you, Yonatan. Here's to boundaries. Unity. Strength. Wisdom.

[Radharani]

quote:Originally posted by Bodhi Tree

quote:Originally posted by Radharani

So I've had to learn that it's ok to be quote-unquote "mean" at times, to always act with compassion but do what needs to be done.  I'm right there with ya, bro.  Let's pray our respective "problem tenants" move along peaceably to their new homes in the near future!

You certainly have my prayers going in your direction, and thank you for doing the same regarding my similar predicament. Here's a really good Yogani lesson on tough love, which has been helpful:
http://www.aypsite.com/plus/272.html
Lesson 272 - Addiction, Abusive Conduct, Tough Love and Yoga

You have my prayers, bro!  and yes, that is a great lesson.

Well I am happy to share with you, that today I gave my Problem Tenant 30 days' notice!  His relatives are saying that I am "mean," but boo f*ing hoo.  He's been blatantly disrespecting me and his father for almost a year, turning my trailer into a pigsty AND trying to turn us against each other.  I only became wise to the latter very recently.  He thinks he can do whatever he wants now that he is 18 - fine, he can go do it someplace else, and destroy somebody else's property.  And get a job.  

I pray that your situation will be resolved in a satisfactory manner in the near future.  

[Bodhi Tree]

Bravo! Onward.

[pkj]

Bodhi

Lesson 272 sums it up very well. If it does not improves better to move on.

All the best

PKJ

[Bodhi Tree]

UPDATE: He has moved out. I feel very relieved. Though we did not talk or make any kind of formal amends, and though the tension has been persistently palpable, at least he has left with no physical altercation. Of course, who knows what could happen in the future, but it is pointless to worry about what I can't control. This whole little episode has put the element of uncertainty in great perspective...what can I control? Not much. But, I can trust my intuition and silent visions more closely if there is confusion in the future. Running things by friends is helpful too.

On that note, thanks for chiming in and being supportive in any unseen ways. Hurray samyama!! Samyama power!!

Live and learn.

[maheswari]

[Radharani]

hurray!  glad to hear it.

[Yonatan]

That's good Bodhi

Love and Light!!!