Yes, it was Tennyson who wrote, "Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all." Yeah, and it's the LOST part that will, inevitably, hurt us, no matter what, eventually that'll bite you in the butt... I'd never change that, because that's where our strength comes from--from suffering, and then recovering. I loved my wife for 35 years, and when she died 6 years ago, I suffered like I'd never imagined one could suffer. But I lived, and loved, and lost, and then realized I could live yet again. Your loss, while real and painful, is but training wheels for the larger losses which will visit you later in life, trust me. Life has a way of rearing it's hopeful head and insisting on renewal, joy and contentment, just so long as we keep on the path of Light...
Michael