I know this forum is no support for one's life problems, but here is a true problem I'm facing and it's causing much self-disapointment and culpability. So I thought AYP practicionners could be well-placed to give me some insights.
Since a few months (years?) I'm very easily irritated. At first I was not really aware of it, but soon I realized I was behaving with a lot of anger, mostly when I'm at home.
It's a bit stupid, actually I think it's really dumb, but the thing that irritates me the most is the fact that my wife speaks loud even where we are only the two of us at home. As I often feel tired and need peace and quiet when coming back from work, but I dont' want to deny her the right to express herself as she wants.
Actually, loud speaking and extroversion are parts of her personality, and she is quite susceptive when I point it out to her and ask for some peace. So I keep it to myself, I turn myself deaf so I don't have to take care for all sound stimulus occuring in my surroundings. But every time she calls for me or asks me something, I over react sharply and bluntly. I do no want to, but I can not help it, I feel like a wave of anger coming from my chest and the words come out of my mouth uncontrolled.
On the one hand, I tell myself that I do not have to stop her being as she is, and it's me who has a problem to solve. On the other hand, I tell myself that if I feel what I feel, I must tell her and she can also make an effort. In the end, what matters to me is to spend quality time with her, and also to stop being such a jerk with my loving one.
I hope that AYP practices (currently doing 1 min SPB + 20 min DM twice a day) will help me to get through it, but the fact is after DM I often need peace and quiet, but it is sometimes hard to get some
Plus the fact that I have a 6 months baby which provides us a tremendous joy, but who also needs a lot of attention and patience.
I'm wondering if I'm not releasing lot of past anger, due to the fact that I've done much pranayama last months (kriya yoga practices) and had two sessions of PBA (psycho-bio-acupressure) during which my therapist told me I have a lot of anger stocked from birth and he has released it all. Maybe all this purification drives me to experience all this anger in a short period? Maybe I'm making stories. I really don't know and I hope I won't become a grumpy 30-years-old man unable to enjoy bursts of life from my loved ones
(sorry for my english, I'm french speaking...)