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Originally posted by karl
You help by working on yourself. No one else can really be helped.
Yes I observe this as well, karl.
Ever had this happen to you?: Someone in desperate need of help comes to you for advice. You give them excellent advice that would genuinely help them if they followed it. They resist it, debate you on it, and ultimately don't follow it. Later on, in their own time, they find their own solution. Maybe they even come back and tell you that you were right.
People will often help themselves if you just be available to them with love, without judging their situation as being wrong or needing to be fixed.
Also, when I changed my motivation from wanting to help others to wanting to serve others, beautiful changes started happening. It's a liberating mindset change that I recommend.
Peace