Thank you for your concern, David. What if I use Yoganis words instead?
"A deep desire we all have is to merge permanently with
the ecstasy contained in this thing called "sex.
Tantra means "woven together," or "two fullnesses as one." It means
the same as yoga really, with some intimacy added. Tantra recognizes
from the start that there are two poles to be ecstatically merged for
enlightenment to occur – father heaven and mother earth, masculine
and feminine energies, shiva and shakti, yin and yang – and that
these two poles are contained in us, in our nervous system.
For
if we do not get a handle on the huge flows of prana involved in the
sex act, we may find that we are limited in what we can accomplish
spiritually in our nervous system. This does not mean we have to
entertain the dreaded "C" word (celibacy). It does mean we will
consider some intelligent methods to bring our sexual activities more
in line with our spiritual aspirations. In fact, you may be surprised
to find that intelligent spiritual sex can be far more enjoyable than
the run-of-the-mill kind of sex which is sometimes characterized by the
words, "Wham, bam, thank you Ma'am."
We have obsessions, strong emotional attachments relating to sex.
Let's remind ourselves that we are coming to the bed for a higher
purpose in lovemaking, and let's use bhakti to direct our sexual
obsessions to that.
etc etc... It was Yoganis words that gave me thoughts about this topic. To me it doesn't matter from where I get pushes to greater inward attention. I get immediate response in my deepest knowing when I read something that is right for me to hear in the moment. I do not go into any mind-judgement of different persons trying to communicate Truth. I have gotten important insights from Long, Osho, The Toltecs, Tarot cards, the pop groups System of a Down and Lucky People Center International, Yogani, people at this forum, friends, whatever. I feel that most of what I hear is the same thing basically. And I respond with deep breathing, tears or just strong "knowing" that what I hear or read is true. As long as I listen inwards I am safe, always! =)
My thoughts about your sexual situation was this sentence: "I was somehow thinking that if I have spiritual development that I would make me care only about 'Inner beauty'. But no, it didn't, and that's the way it is."
I do not know if you call yourself realized or enlightened yet. If you do it is interesting. If you don't I get a feeling of something behind this sentence. Your next reply contained the sentence: "Thanks, Emc, but actually I've never been addicted to attraction at all.", which gave me another hint that either we totally miss each others message, or you have something within you that you do not want to recognize. But I do not know. I only know I do not react with my ordinary "truth"-reactions when I read your replies. I react with emotionality which usually is triggered by emotionality... And emotionality covers deep truths about our selves.
This sensitivity has chocked my partner several times. He can come home and be happy and loving. But if I respond to that with coldness, distress, restlessness, anxiety or anger it usually takes a minor quarrel before it turns out he has not been honest or true to me during the day, carrying a small fear that "if he told me I would dislike what I heard". So he keeps silent. Once it took very long to find out what it was. It went so far that we went to bed and I just couldn't fall asleep. I started to get scared of the darkness. And it was extremely odd, so I said "What on earth? Am I scared of the darkness suddenly? Is this really my fear?" He then finally said "Ooops, you must be feeling my fear... something happened today that I haven't told you". I have noticed it is very difficult to lie to me nowadays. I will immediately feel that something is wrong. But this mostly goes for those close to me.
Anthem, I have both read it and experienced it. The site I saw it on was a dutch site, someone channeling things from Jeshua.
http://www.jeshua.net/"From ego to heart". I recognize my own spiritual journey very much in those descriptions.