Pardon my straight talk... It might seem like childlike behavior or naivite to some... But I found that relying on God and asking his help in everything helps. In overloading also and in trying to deal with our own self and disciplining it. Asking for God's help is the best cure in my opinion. Either He would send you a teacher to help you. Or you'll wake up and the problem is just simply gone. Or He might directly talk to you[/\]
Allah is beautiful and sweet. Rely on Him. I don't believe in an enlightenment without God\\Allah or you may call him or her as Truth. We can't simply just rely on ourselves. There is a higher power.
In reality, there is no oneness. There is only One and there is none with him or as his partner. Allah\\Truth only is. Work by Allah's grace. Rely on him. He is all loving. He is the inner tear within our hearts. God is great. God is good. God is beautiful. May Allah bless and help all of you my brothers and sisters[/\] Much love to All[3]